Surviving An Office Romance Gone Sour

There are several conveniences to dating someone you work with. I mean think about it, you see each other every day, share similar work struggles, surprise lunch dates and carpooling opportunities. We almost never go into a dating situation or relationship thinking that it’s going to end because we live for instant gratification and what feels right in the moment, however, in some cases they do and the office romance that you once found to be convenient, exciting and adventurous suddenly take a turn for the worst.

The worst thing you have to deal with now is seeing his or her face every single day. Sometimes your work ethics lies on the line as you struggle to separate personal from business and you just don’t know what to do anymore. That romance that once seemed convenient is now inconveniencing your work life. The idea of quitting seems like the best bet, but it’s a tad bit extreme especially when you don’t have other options so, here are other ways to survive an office break up and keep your job.

1. Set “strictly business” boundaries and be professional about it. As an employee, you’re main priority is to your job duties and responsibilities and if you have to continue to work with the person you would rather not see, it is best to set strictly work boundaries. Communication via work email and work phone for work purposes only. Just because the after hour hang outs and phone chats have stopped doesn’t mean you can’t remain cordial to them during work hours at work.

2. Avoid situations to exact revenge. Sometime even the most mature adults can have childish moments when feelings are involved. Granted you’re hurt, so the initial reaction could be to make that person hurt as well. You want them to feel exactly how they made you feel. In no way should you be at work plotting on ways to hurt a fellow employee. It exudes unprofessional work behavior and shows coworkers and supervisors that you cannot keep your composure. Plus you don’t want everybody all up in your biz. Not to mention that most companies have a no fraternizing clause where it is frowned upon for employees to have personal, romantic relationships with one another.

3. Keep it discreet. Discussing your office romance and break up with coworkers can lead to rumors and speculations around the office place. It’s never a great thing to have your name attached to work place drama. That’s a soap opera you never want to be a part of.

4. Take on more work duties and responsibilities. It’s a more productive distraction from the awkward moments you would be having if you were focusing on your work ex. This is also a great time to empower yourself by exhibiting your skills and showing that you are capable of doing great work. You will feel a sense of pride when you get positive results from your boss. Taking on more responsibilities are enhancing your life outside of work makes for a positive distraction as well.

Surviving an office romance gone sour is never an easy thing and sometimes all we have is time to tell whether we can get back to a normal work environment. If your office romance was with your boss than I would just consider other jobs options. There’s no coming back from that one ladies.

1 Comment

  1. “Set “strictly business” boundaries and be professional about it. As an employee, you’re main priority is to your job duties and responsibilities and if you have to continue to work with the person you would rather not see, it is best to set strictly work boundaries. Communication via work email and work phone for work purposes only. Just because the after hour hang outs and phone chats have stopped doesn’t mean you can’t remain cordial to them during work hours at work.”
    Very good advice! Great post!

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