It’s not uncommon for young people to have roommates after college. There are several benefits to having them. It allows you freedom away from living with your parents while cutting the cost of leasing an apartment by yourself. You learn financial responsibility by sharing utilities and learning how to budget those extremely important monthly expenses and factoring in a social life. It is a great way to build rental history as well as credit history if you have a great landlord. However, sometimes you never really know a person until you live with them. In my case, I didn’t know the person at all.
In January, I had decided to move back to Newark after spending some time in Jersey City. If you know anything about the city of Newark, it’s definitely changing and becoming a more expensive city to live in due to gentrification. Especially to the downtown area. So my issue was finding an affordable place, but still in a nice and safe area in Newark, so when I found a townhouse in Society Hill that went for $650 being shared with another female. I thought I had struck gold. I went to view the place and everything checked out. I viewed some other places before confirming and putting my deposit to hold the place.
When I moved in, it was great. The nightmares didn’t start until about two months after moving in. I shared a bathroom with my roommate and I soon learned how messy she was. Brown rings and dirty soap scum in the tub, rings inside the toilet, make up and eyelashes on the bathroom counter, toothpaste splatter on the mirror. I could just scream. It was an incubator for bacteria. I couldn’t believe how filthy a woman could be.
She was a big meal cooker, even though she was only cooking for herself. Pots and pans everywhere in the sink, on the stove, in the refrigerator, in the dishwasher. Trying to navigate the kitchen when I wanted to cook was like going on an Indiana Jones mission. So many obstacles. We went through garbage bags like water and the shared living spaces where unlivable. After several conversations with her about cleanliness I found that nothing was changing. So I began to file several written complaints to my landlord. Still she was a lost cause.
A month after moving in, the noise began. I learned that she was a very dramatic person. She’s one of those people you do not take on a date to the movies. She will laugh obnoxiously loud, clap at the tv, scream at the tv and loudly narrate what is happening as it is happening. Her friends were no different. Two people socializing in the living room sounded like a party of ten. She had surround sound in her room so watching tv at 10pm and later became a nuisance. I realized I got out of work before she did, so I would find myself rushing home just so I can enjoy at least an hour or two of peace and quiet before she came home.
She was a “free woman” so she often entertained some men at our place which I didn’t mind as long as she kept her guest in her room, but she often walked around half-naked. With all these complaints I was embarrassed and even nervous to invite any of my friends over. I didn’t want to admit that I shared an apartment with such a filthy person and further more I didn’t want people thinking I was the filthy person.
After several complaints, an eviction notice for her, and her refusal to leave, I am packing up my bags and shipping out. I realize it is time for this birdy to fly solo. The signs were all there. I started thinking when do you know you’ve outgrown a roommate situation.
- You’re a Particular Person
Whether you’re an extremely clean person or a filthy person. If you like peace and quiet and loud spaces, when you get to a place where you become particular about the type of vibe you want to live in, it is time for you to live on your own. We’re all different and some days you might like it loud and some days quiet but when you live alone you don’t have to worry about checking in with others or considering others before doing so.
And that’s just it.