According to an article titled “The Science of Cohabitation: A Step Towards Marriage Not Rebellion” written in The Atlantic by Lauren Fox, cohabitation has increased nearly 900 percent over the last 50 years. More and more couples are taking that step in the hopes of “testing the waters” before marriage because as they say, you never really know someone until you live with them.
A study conducted by the Council of Contemporary Families raised the question on whether cohabitation before marriage had a direct link to a higher divorce rate and their findings showed that the longer couples waited to live together the better chance they had at a successful marriage. It was founded that individuals who committed to cohabitation or marriage at ages 18-22 saw a 60 percent rate of divorce. Whereas individuals who waited until 23 and older to commit saw a divorce rate that hovered more around 30 percent. Just adding my own personal spiel I also believe that it has a lot to do with where you’re at in life career-wise and whether your lifestyles complement each others.
As always, some of the fellas weighed in on sharing space and duplicating them keys.
“When you trust them to share responsibility and when you’re sure your pimpin days are or over or at least on pause…Instructions: don’t come without food.” ~29
“I personally believe it depends on how deep the relationship has gotten, can’t really put a time limit on a connection. A relationship is all about give and take. If I care about her and she’s there everyday, opening the door could be the brightest part of my day. And decorating will take a discussion and a little compromise.” ~24
“I’m a firm believer in things being organic and natural. Relationships tend to progress naturally as long as both parties are making an effort to grow outside and inside of the relationship. It’s like magic, one day you’re just like, “here’s the key! I’m tired of going out of the way to drop off the key just so you can get that blouse you left at my place.” ~26
“When the person can help you pay the utility bill that they’re helping you run up!!” ~28
“You know when you first start dating someone and you’re all on cloud nine and in that honeymoon, new phase…once that’s over things become settled and relaxed and you’re thinking how can I one up myself this time…then it hits you…here babe, have a key.” ~29
“You get tired of getting up to buzz her in to your apartment or waiting around for her to get there before running out for errands. With a key, she can come and go as she pleases.” ~25
“When I feel like it because it’s my house.” ~33
There can be a lot said both good and bad about the prospects of living with someone before marriage. It can be a learning experience and a smooth transition into marriage, but on the other hand, “couples stay in relationships longer than they should because once they live with someone, it becomes harder to find the escape hatch.”
Either way we all agreed that if he gives you a key to his place ladies, you got the juice now. Carry on.