When The Dreams That You’ve Been Chasing Isn’t The Purpose That’s Been Chasing You…


It’s been a while…I’ve been on a mini hiatus trying to make sense of a lot of things in my life. I’ve been dealing with body image issues, going through a career change, and just an entire shift in my daily lifestyle. I’ve become more dormant, I’ve been less active and I’m enjoying the experiences that new love brings, but I must admit there’s still a tug of war taking place, there’s still pulling teeth in some areas.

I’m a girl from the hood who saw the value of education as my only option out and I had big city, media maven dreams that I’ve been chasing since, but lately I’ve found myself tired. I’ve found myself drained by it all, but my love of writing is still forever present. I started thinking about these dreams that I’ve been chasing and how I wish to see them executed in my life. Writing has been the most therapeutic for me over the years, but when it’s all said and done, I want to write books. That’s it. I love blogging and sharing stories with you all and inspiring people, but my big city media maven “dreams” have come to an end. My heart is desiring other things.

Writing is a staple in my life. It’s a huge part of who I am and no matter where I might venture, it always comes down to two things: writing and education. So as I’ve been chasing the big city, media maven dreams, education which has always been my purpose, has been chasing me and I’ve been running, but recently I’ve stopped. I’ve grown tired of running. I’ve been playing tug of war with the fast paced lifestyle that working in media brings. The being all over the place, the meeting and socializing with young people like myself over drinks and music, the 45 min. train rides to New York City and the nightlife that doesn’t sleep.

Two weeks ago, I studied through long nights, I sat through a 3.5 hour exam as the first steps towards that purpose. I had to take the Praxis II exam for English Language Arts: Content and Analysis. I searched apartments in a new city (Baltimore) and I’ve been having mixed feelings about it all. I’ve put aside my nomadic behavior, I’ve had to shed that single girl cocoon I’ve lived in for the past two years and I’m finally establishing some roots somewhere. There are those days where I’m all smiles because I’m trusting this new direction that life is taking me in and then there are the days full of worry while trying to hold on to the things I’m not ready to let go of yet (the never ending nightlife scene, partying and drinking excessively with friends, being near the Big Apple).

Today in church, I asked God for help. I asked him to give me clarity and to stop me from worrying so much. I asked him to help me trust this process, this unexpected shift, this “step back.” I asked him to really help me evaluate all the options that lay before me rationally. I asked him to help me stop picking pieces from other people’s life that I wished I had and using it to compare with my own.


So, what do you do when the dream you’ve been chasing isn’t the purpose that’s chasing you? Do you accept that you have to stop running eventually? Do you ignore it and continue to dodge it? Do you trust God’s promise of prosperity and his plan for you?

I closed my eyes. Closed my eyes from the world. I tuned out of the glitz and glam of Instagram. I closed my eyes to the people that I admired that I let turn into obsession. I closed my ears and turned off the thoughts of the things that I thought people would say. I listened. For the first time in my life, I put aside my own thoughts. I thought about tunnel vision and how for most of my life I had zoned in on one thing failing to see the entire picture. When I did that, I felt less pressure, I felt less confused and less worry. I began to think clearly and I’ve made my decision to stop running from the purpose that’s been chasing me.

I also realized something important, the dream that I’ve been chasing has strengthened my writing on so many levels. The chasing as built up my endurance. It’s prepared me to run in my purpose. I am a writer…who teaches writing…helps others fall in love with writing…and creates opportunities for others through writing.

So as I cruise through these Baltimore streets and learn new neighborhoods and adapt to a new lifestyle, I am excited by the possibilities.



  1. Oh my I can so relate to your story. For many years I’ve been chasing a dream and realized recently that it isn’t my purpose. Because if it was, it would have been realized already so I’ve decided to let it go. I’ve also removed myself from instagram and such..ever since I’ve done that I feel I’m more focused on listening to what God and the angels have to say. Because I think I wasn’t listening all these years…so I’ve been in a hermit type of mode ..but that’s okay..because i believe that beimg alone with my thoughts will hopefully guide me to my purpose. Reason why I started this blog also . Love your post!! Have a great weekend💕🙌🌹💋xo, Jey


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