There’s nothing like a man that can open up your mind and expand your learning by dropping some knowledge every once in a while. There’s really nothing like a man who can crack open a bible and spit some scriptures to you, pray for and with you, and make sure that you’re spiritually good though. According to a Gallup study, 70% of Americans claim membership in a church or synagogue, with three out of five adults indicating that religion is “very important” in their lives. Of the 90% of Americans who reportedly pray, the most common prayer (98%) is for the “well-being of their families.” With religion and spiritual journeys being so prevalent to many, it got me to thinking about how that plays out in our spiritual connections with others, specifically our romantic partners. I mean often times we ask for a man or a woman who’s spiritually grounded. We often ask for a man who’s chasing after God. We want our “Boaz,” but the thing about spiritual journeys is although there might be similarities between ours and our partner’s, they’re still very much different, so what does it really mean to be spiritually connected?
So after a few Google searches, I was frustrated to see so many links to psychic websites, so many sites that tied being spiritually connected to being physically connected through sex, and so many links that just didn’t answer my question at all. So my next and most obvious option was the bible. I had to tweak my original question because even though I wanted to know what that meant in romantic relationships, I realized that we are still two individuals so rather what does it mean to just have a spiritual connections with someone else?
“In him you are also being built together into a dwelling place for God by the Spirit.” (Ephesians 2:22, ESV)
You remember those old cartoon, the ones before Looney Tunes where they would always have the characters as factory workers or on an assembly line at a construction site and they had a certain rhythm going as they worked on the line laying bricks, spreading the cement, laying another brick. If one person messed up the flow or the rhythm of things, it could throw the whole line off. More importantly the bricks were laid in a specific pattern, like putting together a puzzle. This pattern made for a solid foundation and insured that the higher the brick laying got, the less chances there were for everything to topple. Spiritually, we are meant to fit together like bricks in a new building. It’s essential that the parts of a building fit together. You aren’t safe otherwise because there’s no spiritual support.
“For as in one body we have many members, and the members do not all have the same function, so we, though many, are one body in Christ, and individually members one of another.” (Romans 12:4-5 ESV)
Back to this building process. There’s someone way in the back making and mixing the cement. There’s someone laying the bricks. There’s someone who spreads the cement. There’s someone who supervises the workers. There’s someone who holds the blueprints. The point is there are so many roles and responsibilities that go into building this…well, building. I assume that even though our spiritual journeys are quite different from each other, the fact that we are on a spiritual journey is enough to connect us. Even though we are different, each of our journeys contribute to that of the other.
“Abide in me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit by itself, unless it abides in the vine, neither can you, unless you abide in me.” (John 15:4 ESV)
I’ve seen buildings covered in vines, I’ve seen trees covered in vines, I’ve seen people covered in vines (just kidding), but I realize that anything a vine touches tends to eventually consume it. The interesting part is that it creates a beautiful ruin that somehow preserves the structure of what it’s covering. Think of that spiritually. One the outside and in this world we are a complete mess, but if we are covered in vines (Christ) think about how much that protects us? I imagine that’s what it’s like being spiritually connected to someone. Then there’s also the maintenance of those vines which figuratively include praying, reading your bible and staying close to others on the beaten path.
Literally it includes the process of pruning. A few years ago, I taught a healthy habits class to children in an after school program and for Earth Day we planted flowers. I had to teach them how to take care of their plants. They had to learn how to prune which meant snipping away weeds, dead branches and leaves that were also dying. Being spiritually connected to someone means cutting away those distractions, and subtle evils that can make for a rotting vine.
So as they said, “If bae don’t pray, bae can’t stay…” but then that also forced me to check myself as well and make sure that I’m doing my part.
What does being spiritually connected mean to you?