Some days I wonder if what I’m doing is really impacting others. Some days I wonder what am I even doing? When I started blogging and working on my book two years ago I was excited about the possibilities. I just knew that I would someday gain a wide audience and become this inspirational person to the masses. Two years later it seems like everyone’s a blogger now and everyone’s writing self-published books now and there are times when I want to just stop because I feel like what I’m doing is no more significant than what everyone else is doing. Has anybody else found themselves feeling this way?
So last week, I had the opportunity to interview trichologist and natural hair educator Dr. Kari Williams for Upscale Magazine. We talked a lot about the black hair industry and how it’s an extremely lucrative business to go into for someone who’s interested in entrepreneurship. We discussed how so many women and men are turning to the industry as side hustles to make a few extra dollars a month. We discussed the word “oversaturated” and how it’s often used to describe certain work fields that are producing the most jobs and competition. I asked her for a bit of advice she’d give someone building a brand or looking to be an entrepreneur when they feel like they just can’t get their foot in the door of an “oversaturated” industry.
She talked about how the first thing everyone needs to do is have an abundance mentality. She said if you walk into something feeling defeated or you allow defeat to creep in you’ve already lost before you’ve even allowed yourself to win. I keep replaying that comment over and over again in my head whenever I feel like just dropping everything. I had never heard of “abundance mentality” before. She explained to me that it’s the logic that there is enough for everyone and what you have is different because it’s coming from you. It’s original and that’s what makes it different.
What is “Abundance Mentality”
The Abundance Mentality, on the other hand, flows out of a deep inner sense of personal worth and security. It is the paradigm that there is plenty out there and enough to spare for everybody. It results in sharing of prestige, of recognition, of profits, of decision making. It opens possibilities, options, alternatives, and creativity.
So how do I manifest an abundant mentality?
There are a lot of ways you can shift your mindset. The first is by having gratitude. Rather than focusing on what you don’t have, think about everything that you do have. Water your own grass and stop looking at how green someone else’s is. Stop comparing yourself to others, their harvesting process is different from yours.
As a kid you’re parents should have taught you that sharing is caring. Well that’s another way to manifest an abundance mentality. By sharing with others it creates a healthy habit that we can all share a piece of the pie. We can all pull up a chair to the feast. There is enough for all of us so don’t be stingy. Share.
Resources are not scarce and believing things are ushers in greed, closes off connections and is draining. You’ll constantly feel like you have to be keeping up with someone or something. You’ll feel this jealous often. You’ll have this rushed process because if someone take a bigger piece of the pie then that leaves hardly anything for you so now it’s about getting the bigger piece.
She spoke it to me in terms of hair care and as if someone was aspiring to be a hair stylist. She said, “there is enough hair in this world for every stylist to have a seat. People can do but so much hair in one day before it’s time to let someone else in so that you can rest.” Apply that same logic to what you’re doing. Perspective is everything.