On a Scale of “Eh” to “Zaaamnn Zadddy” and Why I’m Still Single: A Critical Analysis of My Love Life

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Okay, so last year I wrote a post about self-actualization and how according to Maslow, I’m still single because I just haven’t figured out my life and it was the truth then, but a lot has changed in my life since that post. I’ve grown so much professionally and have carved out a really solid path for myself that grows wider and wider each day.

I often find myself having these metacognitive moments when I’m reflecting on my life and lately it’s been my love life. I find myself bored easily. I’m left unimpressed and I can’t seem to date on my level. I delete and reactivate my dating site apps like a broke person in an unhealthy relationship with Sprint (seriously, Sprint sucks, but they’re affordable). I can’t find a guy who can carry a decent conversation with an adult aged vocabulary, a man with enough balls to relentlessly and fearlessly follow his dreams, a man who hasn’t gotten too comfortable with the mediocrity of their life. What gives? Seriously.  Continue reading “On a Scale of “Eh” to “Zaaamnn Zadddy” and Why I’m Still Single: A Critical Analysis of My Love Life”

Two MAJOR Things to Consider When Looking for Community Partners

shaking-handsThis year I did a soft launch of my organization Curate Your Life, and since then I’ve been doing a lot of behind the scenes work in terms of ironing out the blueprint, creating my programs and getting things in order for the BIG launch in 2018. In the interim, my goal has been to continue to generate buzz and continue branding through community partnerships and sponsorship while hosting small and sporadic events along the Eastern coast.

Here’s the thing about community partnerships, they can either be the best things for you in terms of reaching your organization’s goals OR they can be your organization’s worst nightmare, so if you are looking to make community partnerships and sponsors for your organization, here are some things to consider.

Do A Culture Check. 

No, I don’t mean culture in terms of race, ethnicity and societal norms, what I mean by culture is the look and feel of the organization you’re interested in partnering with. Are the employees happy? Are the people they service happy? How effective is this organization to the population it serves?

This is important because your organization is important to you!  The last thing you want to do is open up your organization to another organization that doesn’t have a high morale because how are people going to get excited about what you have to bring to the table when the table is messy. Which brings me to my next point:

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Is the Organization Ready for a Partnership?

I’ve learned that before change can happen, there’s a lot of rootwork that is sometimes required. It’s like clearing out all of the weeds and preparing the soil before you begin to plant the seeds. Ask yourself these questions: Is the organization I’m looking to partner with in a good place for partnerships? Do they have a solid foundation? A strong clientele or customer list? Are they unorganized and is there a lot of things unclear and out of order that could prevent you from executing what you want to do effectively? Otherwise, planting your organization can lead to a lot of unwanted chaos and more work on your part in the aisle clean up department.

You want the partnership to aid in sustaining and growing your organization. You don’t want to walk into a situation where you find yourself helping their organization fight to stay afloat to the point where you don’t have space and opportunities to roll out your services and showcase what you wanted to offer.

Fostering community partners can be a challenge, but the most important thing to remember is who your audience is and what the potential synergy can do for both brands involved. So moral of the story, do your research, observe the day to day operations of the organization before expressing interests in a partnership, and make notes on what they currently offer and how what you have to offer can enhance their brand, but keep in mind, what you stand to gain and/or lose in the process.

 

The Speaking Got Easier

It’s Friday and there are approximately 5 hours left in my work day before spring break. As I sit in the emptiness of my classroom, I reflect. Going into the last of the first quarter of the year, I reflect on all of my accomplishments, new opportunities, blessings, abundance and the amount of gratitude I feel for it all.

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As I am planning an 8-week curriculum for Curate Your Life, I came across a quote by Audre Lorde that screamed to me. It spoke to me so loudly that I was overwhelmed with that feeling of certainty you get when you know you are exactly where you need to be and that you are about to catapult into something super great. The speaking got easier. She said:

“The speaking will get easier and easier. And you will find you have fallen in love with your own vision, which you may never have realized you had. And you will lose some friends and lovers, and realize you don’t miss them. And new ones will find you and cherish you. And at last you’ll know with surpassing certainty that only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth. And that is not speaking.”

The speaking got easier. I swear to y’all it did. Curate Your Life was never a vision. It wasn’t even a dream. It was something that just happened when I started to speak and literally stopped trying to plan my path and just let it happen the way it should. All of the right people came into my life and all of the wrong people left. I’ve never been more certain in my life about my life and as Audre said, the only thing more frightening than taking risk and living my truth is not living my truth and playing it safe.

In order for the speaking to get louder sometimes you have to be very still. Sometimes you have to stop talking. Sometimes you have to stop moving and be..very…quiet…I’ve done a lot of stopping and standing so far this year so that I could listen, so that the speaking could get louder.

I didn’t give this vision to myself, but I have fallen in love with the vision that was given to me.

I say all of that to say, be quiet sometimes. Just stop and listen to what’s being spoken to you and it will get louder. So loud that it will be impossible to ignore.

xoxo