Manifesting an Abundance Mentality

Some days I wonder if what I’m doing is really impacting others. Some days I wonder what am I even doing? When I started blogging and working on my book two years ago I was excited about the possibilities. I just knew that I would someday gain a wide audience and become this inspirational person to the masses. Two years later it seems like everyone’s a blogger now and everyone’s writing self-published books now and there are times when I want to just stop because I feel like what I’m doing is no more significant than what everyone else is doing. Has anybody else found themselves feeling this way?

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So last week, I had the opportunity to interview trichologist and natural hair educator Dr. Kari Williams for Upscale Magazine. We talked a lot about the black hair industry and how it’s an extremely lucrative business to go into for someone who’s interested in entrepreneurship. We discussed how so many women and men are turning to the industry as side hustles to make a few extra dollars a month. We discussed the word “oversaturated” and how it’s often used to describe certain work fields that are producing the most jobs and competition. I asked her for a bit of advice she’d give someone building a brand or looking to be an entrepreneur when they feel like they just can’t get their foot in the door of an “oversaturated” industry.

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She talked about how the first thing everyone needs to do is have an abundance mentality. She said if you walk into something feeling defeated or you allow defeat to creep in you’ve already lost before you’ve even allowed yourself to win. I keep replaying that comment over and over again in my head whenever I feel like just dropping everything. I had never heard of “abundance mentality” before. She explained to me that it’s the logic that there is enough for everyone and what you have is different because it’s coming from you. It’s original and that’s what makes it different.

What is “Abundance Mentality”

The Abundance Mentality, on the other hand, flows out of a deep inner sense of personal worth and security. It is the paradigm that there is plenty out there and enough to spare for everybody. It results in sharing of prestige, of recognition, of profits, of decision making. It opens possibilities, options, alternatives, and creativity.

So how do I manifest an abundant mentality?

There are a lot of ways you can shift your mindset. The first is by having gratitude. Rather than focusing on what you don’t have, think about everything that you do have. Water your own grass and stop looking at how green someone else’s is. Stop comparing yourself to others, their harvesting process is different from yours.

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As a kid you’re parents should have taught you that sharing is caring. Well that’s another way to manifest an abundance mentality. By sharing with others it creates a healthy habit that we can all share a piece of the pie. We can all pull up a chair to the feast. There is enough for all of us so don’t be stingy. Share.

Resources are not scarce and believing things are ushers in greed, closes off connections and is draining. You’ll constantly feel like you have to be keeping up with someone or something. You’ll feel this jealous often. You’ll have this rushed process because if someone take a bigger piece of the pie then that leaves hardly anything for you so now it’s about getting the bigger piece.

She spoke it to me in terms of hair care and as if someone was aspiring to be a hair stylist. She said, “there is enough hair in this world for every stylist to have a seat. People can do but so much hair in one day before it’s time to let someone else in so that you can rest.” Apply that same logic to what you’re doing. Perspective is everything.

Finding Confirmation When The Dots Connect

When life comes at you, sometimes it comes at you hard…and fast and there’s never a way to be prepared for it. Some days you just have to say f**k it and let the waves carry you. Sometimes what you thought you were scared of and weren’t ready to handle actually turns out to be quite a beautiful journey and a story.

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This story is about connecting dots. A few days ago I was standing in the checkout line at the grocery store. As usual, I was looking at the covers of the unorganized rows of magazines to see if there was anything interesting. So after checking out the food and bridal magazines, I saw tucked neatly near the register was a “connect the dots” book and I said wow I haven’t seen one of those in a long time. You know, the connect the dots activities where you have to find the consecutive numbers and trace them until what’s left is a picture. I thought about that in terms of my life.

At first glance the dots just look like a bunch of nothing. There’s dots everywhere and numbers everywhere and nothing makes sense. The 1 dot is next to the 50th dot and the 2 dot is next to the 30th dot but the more you connect the dots, the more clear things become and you begin to see the bigger picture.

I thought about why I had been so unhappy and why things just weren’t falling into place the way I wanted. I got lost in the jumble of dots and wanted so badly to leap from 1 to 40 so that I would be more than halfway there. There being my “destination.”

It wasn’t until I acknowledged the divine order over my life did I learn that fulfillment comes in the connecting of the dots. To stop looking to the future for my answers and instead be present. To peel away the layers to find the dots. They were there all along, as they are for each of us. If only we wouldn’t pave over them with messages of “I’m a failure” or “That was a big mistake” or “What’s next and where will I find it?”

What’s the moral of my story? Start at 1 and then 2 and then 3 and even if you have to erase a few lines and redo them…even when it feels like things are taking forever to make sense and even when things aren’t looking as neat as you’d like, just know that no matter how you began, life will come full circle because you can’t finish the bigger picture until you connected the final dot back to 1.