If ever you needed a legitimate excuse to be a lazy couch potato or bed zombie, Sundays are it. On Sundays all electronics go on “Do Not Disturb” and if they don’t know by now, they’ll learn. Don’t call my phone, don’t text my phone unless it is an emergency, not work related or if it’ll make me laugh myself to tears (those disturbances are welcomed). Sundays are a blessings. They’re our little treat from God that says I know you had a long week, a stressful week and maybe even a depressing week, so here’s Saturday to have some fun. Get it all out on Saturday. It’s his way of saying, now rest my child…here’s Sunday.

Lazy Sundays consist of:

A Really Good *Playlist

*if you don’t have a Spotify account, you won’t be able to access the playlist. GOOD NEWS, Spotify is free and the playlist is “Genre Bender.”

A Good Piece of Literature

IMG_4073I recently started reading this anthology of goodness. I love it so much!

Back of Book Summary: What could make a smart woman ignore a doctor’s orders? What could get a hardworking employee fired from her job? What could get a black woman in hot water with her white boyfriend? In a word…hair. When does a few ounces feel like a few tons? When a doctor advises a black woman to start an exercise program and she wonders how she can do it without breaking a sweat? When an employer fires her for wearing a cultural hairstyle that’s “unprofessional,” and she has to go to court to plead for her job. When she’s with her man, and the moment she’s supposed to let loose she stops to secure her head scarf so he doesn’t disturb the ‘do. Tenderheaded? Yes, definitely. All black women are, in one way or another. TENDERHEADED boldly throws open the closet where black women’s skeletons have been threatening to burst down the door. With works by Toni Morrison, Alice Walker, bell hooks, Henry Louis Gates Jr., and other writers of passion, persuasion, and humor, this collection is as rich and diverse as the children of the African diaspora.

Tea

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“You can never get a cup of tea large enough or a book long enough to suit me.”
C.S. Lewis

Good Eats

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A Couple of Movies

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Two women, one (Cameron Diaz) from America and one (Kate Winslet) from Britain, swap homes at Christmastime after bad breakups with their boyfriends. Each woman finds romance with a local man (Jude Law, Jack Black) but realizes that the imminent return home may end the relationship.

A Cuddle Buddy

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Those some lazy Sunday staples when I go off the grid which is becoming more often nowadays. So tell me, what have you done today?

 

There’s a saying that goes: A girl in her bed on a Sunday are an endless love affair. Well ain’t that the truth. Just as the Lord rested on the seventh day, I do like to designate my Sundays not only to prepare for the week, but also to rest and caught on all the sleep that I missed during the week. So I start my Sundays with a fresh face mask, a warm and relaxing shower, a quick and simple breakfast and my bed.

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For most of us, our bed is this magical place where anything can go down (mind out the gutter people). Seriously, it’s like the Barney bag, but it seems that everything you need for the day magically finds it’s way on to your bed and in the crevices of your bundled up blankets. So if you’re planning to spend your day as I am, in bed, here are five things you can do that don’t require you to get up except for bathroom breaks, food and to stretch your legs.

Let’s Go to Church

So I’m learning the importance of fellowship while on your spiritual walk. I’m learning, but I still haven’t stepped foot in a church yet this year, however I still like that I can watch all of my favorite preachers right from my laptop or my phone via Periscope or Livestream. It wouldn’t be possible for me to fly out to Texas every Sunday to see Joel Osteen. I certainly can’t afford to fly out to Singapore to see Joseph Prince and as cool as One Church is, LA ain’t happening every Sunday either. Even though I am not there to witness the sermon and lessons in person, they are still as powerful as if I were.

12821519_10153733094376997_466760158466736386_nRead a Book

Although I don’t watch much tv, I’ve gotten too busy to read a book too and have substituted that for Netflix because it’s quick and easier. I wouldn’t be myself if I wasn’t lost in some good fiction to crack open that book that’s been sitting on the shelf since last year that you haven’t read yet. I currently cracked opened Red Queen by Victoria Aveyard I can’t wait to finish it so I can get the next book in the series. I usually like to keep my music playlist at random when reading, so I’m in the mood for a bit of folk. Aside from Jessica Day being my kindred spirit, I love Zoey Deschanel’s band She & Him.

Deep Condition Your Hair

For the last year I’ve been doing protective styling such as braids because with an on the go lifestyle that I had, it was easier to wake up and go, but my poor hair has been neglected. The thing I love about deep conditioning is that even though the bottle directions say leave in for 15 minutes before rinsing you can leave it in all day for a softer, cleaner feel after rinsing it. It’s a natural hair thing and when you have 4C hair like mine, it takes a lot longer for the moisturizing components of a product to really soak in those locks. If you already have clean hair, you can always grab a cream moisturizer and twist your hair in bed as well.

Do An Ab Workout

For the lazy girl who really wants to workout but getting to the gym is just too much of a hassle. There are several workout that can be done without even getting out of bed. That is a new level of Sunday laziness in my book, but effective nonetheless.

Watch Fuller House

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I started watching this and at first I thought it was a bit cheesy, but it did channel all the nostalgic feels! I love how it’s studio and live recorded. That’s when television was the best. I hope they decided to reboot shows like Good Times, A Different World, Family Matters, etc. I would have a reason to watch tv again.

So that’s how my Sunday is looking. Even if you decide to do nothing on my list, the key point is rest. Let yourself relax a bit, take a day to recuperate.

I am at a place of burnout at the moment. I’ve done less blogging this week, I’ve done less freelancing this week. I’ve worked on my teen fiction less this week. I’m unmotivated to finish the mystery book I’ve been reading no matter how good and suspenseful it is. My dress attire has been reduced to a combination of t-shirts, jeans, and sweatpants and leggings. My eating this week has been handfuls of pretzels, chips, candy, cakes, cookies that have created a bit of fluff in my mid section.

Each morning I wake up there’s a moment of peace immediately interrupted by a massive flow of Slack alerts for Saint Heron with pitches for the day, responses, conversations. There’s a massive load of emails, mostly junk and the more I delete, the more appear. There’s the daily aggravation of a nine year old that’s a serious pain in my behind and most days I just want to pack up and leave it all behind. Phone, laptop, everything. It began yesterday morning. I didn’t charge my phone the previous night so by morning it was already on 10 percent. Now usually because my freelancing days are so hectic, 10% would’ve driven me up the wall and I would’ve been dashing for my charger, but yesterday, it died…and I had no desire to charge it. I turned my phone off for a day because I needed peace and rest. I needed to separate myself from the very thing that consumed most of my day. With freelancing I spend most of my day surfing the web for trending topics, breaking news, or ideas that would be great for the platforms I write for. Then it turns into pitching those ideas to groups via mobile phone and getting feedback. Imagine myself and about 30 other people in a single network doing the same thing. It’s notification overload from sun up to sun down. Buzzing, vibrating, pinging all day and night. I try to focus on one thing, I’m getting alerts for another things. Then once a piece is published, I have to log into my social media accounts for self-promotion and then the notifications letting me know people are reading and commenting on my work is all day and at random. So I had to shut my phone off.

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I didn’t Google search articles and tips on how to motivate myself or how to get out of the rut that I was in. I let myself sit in it for a day and promised myself I wouldn’t let my next day be the same. So during that time without my phone to disturb and interrupt my peace, I slept, I actually got over the teen fiction hump and finished a chapter, I watched TV, slept some more, went for a walk, listened to music in the dark and read my book. I made the day about myself and not what I had to do for others. I just needed a mental escape because I was drained. I found myself fatigued all the time and sluggish. So I just needed to hit a reset button which begins today. I realized how much technology consumes me and how I need to be more conscious of managing it for the sake of my own mental health.

I think I want to start implementing this into my self-care days once a week. Turning my phone off, turning my laptop off and picking up a book and going on more nature walks.